The following is an excerpt from Chapter 7 of Michael's upcoming book, Natural Way of Being:
Vision is when we experience a specific possibility as a potential for ourselves. It has to have the element of it being possible for you. It may come in the form of an idea, a dream, or a realization such as an "aha experience." Vision is direct communication from Life itself.
Is it half-full or half-empty? Do you focus on the people that like you, or the people that don't like you? Do you focus on the 10 positive things in your employee review, or the 1 negative? Do you focus on the things you have, or the things you don't have? Many of us focus on the negative. We have a "propensity of the negative."
Why? The negative resonates with our negative self-belief system- that thing that tells us that there is something wrong with us- that we are deficient in some way. Then we project that negative view onto people and situations.
And... negative choices are reinforced easier than positive
Today is the summer solstice and the longest day of the year in the Northern Hemisphere. Due to the tilt in the earth's axis, the sun is shining directly over the Tropic of Cancer- its northern most point. The sun's migration has been moving northward since December, and today, it will change direction and start to move south again.
In many Native American traditions, the summer solstice represents a time a of "High Ceremony." The dynamic energy of the planet is at its peak in the northern hemisphere. It is a optimal time to connect with this energy to awaken your vision through ceremonies like Vision Quest, Medicine Wheel, and Sun Dance. It is time to dance your dream awake.
You can walk through life open or shut down. So how can you stay open and vulnerable without being taken advantage of or setting yourself up for the slaughter? The best skill I have come across for this was taught to me by Bart Anderson. He called it "folding over the envelope".
We tend to view our relationships as "all or nothing". We tend to share every part of ourselves or no part at all. Folding over the envelope starts with walking open and giving people benefit of the doubt. When someone betrays you or demonstrates a lack of integrity, you simply "fold over" that part of your relationship. All the
Water flows to its source via the path of least resistance. It is the most powerful thing on the planet. It does not tantrum against things or demand people or situations to change. It simply flows through anything it encounters. It slowly erodes away its obstacles. It is patient. It always gets where it is trying to go. It doesn't get stuck or attached to things.
So how can we flow like water? It starts with seeing things as they are. Cease expending energy trying to change people and things into what you need them to be. Rather invest your energy and creativity to accepting things as they are and flowing through them.
About the Author
Michael Hoffman is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, trained spiritual teacher, and author with 25 years experience in coaching, teaching, and counseling. He offers experiential workshops, classes, in-person and phone coaching, and individual, and marriage and family counseling to enjoy the life they would have for themselves. He utilizes Native American ceremony, sharing circles, and guided meditation to allow participants to directly experience their essence and natural way of being.