You were so hopeful. It has happened several times. There was the relationship that you wanted so bad. You could see the possibilities- but he/she could not. There was the dream job. It could've been so cool if upper management didn't bail on your program. Then there was the business, the band, the trip, or the project. It was right there. The stars were aligned. You could see it so clearly. But... apparently your friends, associates, or customers could not. So there you were again– left holding the bag. Disappointed.
Somewhere along the way after being disappointed enough times, we say to ourselves, “That's it, I'm not going there ever again." After that, we stop initiating new ideas– at least the
ones that we get really passionate about. Doorways might even open up to us, but we walk on by. We mutter to ourselves, "Where were you 5 years ago?" We push people away who want to collaborate with us.
It is the disappointment and the associated pain that we are afraid of. And getting our heart broken again. It was just so painful. We opened our heart and got passionately involved. We allowed ourselves to dream. We got excited. We built momentum. We made painstaking progress in little bits at a time. And then slowly, but surely, it all fell apart.
Since then life has been a lot less painful. We occasionally hearken back to the days when we were engaged in one of our projects- or pull out a story to tell. We felt so vital and alive back then. But life is different now. Those days are over.
Or... maybe you have a few runs left in you.
But what if you get your heart broken? You probably will. But I guarantee you will feel really alive again.
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.