Feeling trapped is not a pleasant feeling. Oppression comes from the inability to see the possibilities available to you. So being trapped ultimately is an illusion. But when you are in the middle of it, it sure feels real- and hopeless.
The first thing to understand is that the source of the oppression is inside of you. You could argue that clearly your job or boss is oppressing you. At one level this is true. But there is something inside of you that is allowing the job, coworker, boss, or ex- to oppress you. This thing is a mistaken belief about yourself in relation to the world. You acquired this belief from a past experience. I call this karma or unfinished business.
You can resolve your oppression by allowing yourself to see all the possibilities- even if they do not seem tenable. So first, create a list. Leave everything on the table. Get perspective from people who can see the forest from the trees.
Secondly, pick a few of these possibilities from your list and make them potentials. Seek out new jobs, careers, friends, employees, or places to live. Create some open doorways. For example, if have other job possibilities, you can take more risks with the job that you have. You can be stronger, more assertive and take less crap from your boss or coworker(s). You can let them know what your terms are. You can set parameters for where you are willing and not willing to go with them.
As you walk through this and empower yourself, it will become evident how you opened yourself up to being oppressed- how you limited yourself. Then you never have to allow some power monger or tyrant to have that kind of control over you again. They do not deserve it.
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.