Feeling trapped is not a pleasant feeling. Oppression comes from the inability to see the possibilities available to you. So being trapped ultimately is an illusion. But when you are in the middle of it, it sure feels real- and hopeless.
The first thing to understand is that the source of the oppression is inside of you. You could argue that clearly your job or boss is oppressing you. At one level this is true. But there is something inside of you that is allowing the job, coworker, boss, or ex- to oppress you. This thing is a mistaken belief about yourself in relation to the world. You acquired this belief from a past experience. I call this karma or unfinished business.
It's Wednesday. Wake up. It's time to orchestrate your weekend. I know you are tired, but people are counting on you. Your significant other needs some romantic time. Your kids need to be exposed to new experiences. Your friend needs to meet for a cup of coffee or a beer- don't forget to call. And you need some time to develop that passion that you have been feeling. Some you time.
None of this stuff will happen if you don't focus. If you just let he weekend go any old way- it will be lost. Not that every aspect of it needs to be planned. There will be plenty of room for spontaneity. You just need to set the stage.
Several years ago, Robert Kiyosaki, author of Rich Dad, Poor Dad and numerous books on financial intelligence, was on Oprah speaking about the power of starting your own business. One of the audience members indignantly challenged Robert saying, "What would you say about the fact that one out of ten businesses fail?" Robert said something like, "Well, then I guess I'm gonna have to start ten businesses."
Add to that my all-time favorite TV commercial (you got to check it out- YouTube link) with Michael Jordan saying, "I've failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed."
I watched a story on ABC's This Week Sunday morning where George Clooney is working with commercial satellites to expose human rights abuses in Sudan (link). It is called the Satellite Sentinel Project (link). He has found his true calling (we just thought it was acting). Also, you may have heard that Bill Gates and Warren Buffet are traveling around the world and urging billionaires to contribute half of their wealth to change the world. Many are doing it.
Well, few of us have the wealth, resources, and influence as those people- but our offering is no less profound or important. Clooney, Gates, and Buffet are doing what makes sense for them to do. There is something that makes sense for you to do. You have unique gifts that you are blessed with. You have skills that you have developed. You have
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.