Sure you could. You just tell yourself that you cannot so you don't have to consider it. When we think of doing something we are drawn to, but is out of our comfort zone, it creates conflict and tension. Plus, there is the fear of doing it. The most convenient way to alleviate the tension and fear is to take away the thing we are drawn to. Such is the death of many possibilities, invitations, and ideas- before they ever get a chance.
If we would just be willing to endure the tension and fear for a little while, some of these
Perfection is doing something according to a preconceived notion of what the right thing to do is.
Excellence is exploring what the right thing is in the context of the experience.
Perfection is always just out of reach.
Excellence is immediately accessible by making a choice.
Perfection always has rules about what you need to have before something can be done.
Excellence is working with what you have and finding a way that works.
There seems to be this point in people’s lives when they give up. It goes back to that one painful experience that breaks them. I have heard many of these: getting cheated on, death of someone close, loss of a job, death of a pet, a business folding. Most all of them correlate to the loss of a dream.
Since then, you have not really opened your heart as much. You are not quite as hopeful. Perhaps
It is the perfect time of year to re-evaluate whether or not the things in your life still serve you. We are creatures of habit. Often we continue to do things out of obligation. Perhaps we agreed to do something back when we had other priorities in our lives. Or maybe we just continue to do things without thinking much about it. It is just what we do. And now it has become comfortable.
The only problem is doing these things may no longer be relevant. You have changed. What is important you has changed. But yet you are still doing what you decided to do when you had different priorities. It may be time for an update.
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.