You showed up. You evaluated the situation and considered all the options. You gave it everything you had. And most importantly, you made the call. So why would you ever doubt yourself?
Sure, now that you have committed yourself, you may start to wonder. Was I too strong? Should I gave done more? And then your friends, family and co-workers will chime in, "You did what? That is not what I would have done." Well keep in mind, they were not there. And besides, they are not you.
And then there is the aftermath when the outcomes
One way to envision the healing process is think of emotional issues as trapped energy. Sometimes we are not able to complete the emotional experience at the time it happens because it was too painful, shocking or traumatic, and the energy gets trapped in our body. And there it stays until we allow ourselves to experience the feeling so it can complete itself and release.
Trapped energy often occurs with childhood abuse, sexual trauma, grief, combat PTSD, or any experience that is too painful, intense, and overwhelming for us to process at the time. But over time our life situation becomes more safe and we become stronger, until one day something inside of us
When a someone is demanding something from you or annoying you, it is difficult not to react to it negatively. It could be a child, a parent, a coworker, or a friend. It is almost instinctual to discourage such behavior. But underneath their demand, there is usually a valid emotional need. And if their need goes unmet, the behavior is likely going to come back around again.
So it might be useful to hear their intent. Ask yourself what they are needing underneath their demand or intrusion. And then to willingly help them meet that need. You might even let them know that all they needed to do was ask for what they wanted more directly, thereby providing better skills for the
It is spring time- the perfect time of the year for new aspects of self to be born. Often, the new aspects that emerge do not have any form. They are pure concept or idea. You may have a feeling or picture of it, but not yet understand how it will unfold. It may not be clear how it fits into your life. It may not make sense.
This is natural. Do not discard it because because you don't understand it. Rather, stay with it. Work with the feeling and idea until it slowly begins to take form. Over this coming year and cycle you will see what to do with it.
So find a way to refer to it. Remind yourself of the picture or
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.