The two obvious ways to not be present in the experience that you are in is to think about the past or future. Different people have different tendencies with these. This blog will focus on obsessively thinking about the future or what I will call future tripping.
A typical response is, “But we need to think about the future, how else do we plan and set goals?” And this is true. However, future tripping goes way beyond functional planning. There are two varieties of future tripping that I have been observing in myself and other people. The first I will call fear-based future tripping and the second fantasy future tripping.
It is the coworker that you listen to about her relationship woes or the neighbor that you talk across the fence about gardening. For me it is a coworker that I talk football with. We figure it is not a big deal- we are just chatting. Time and time again, I have learned that these so-called casual relationships end up being a very big deal to the people we are relating to.
We say to ourselves that we want to make a difference. Perhaps a good place to start is to love and embrace the people that you naturally come in contact with. You don't have to relate to different people, you just change how you relate to the people you already interact with. If you open your heart and genuinely care what is going on with them, you will make a huge difference in their lives.
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.