f you do not have what you want (yet), your ability to attain it depends on the way that you view yourself in relation to what you want.

Decide what you want and commit yourself to it. Know that it is going to happen- it is just a matter of time. Every day take another step closer to what you want. It could be a small step like making a phone call, sending an email, or researching something. But every day, take another step.

When you get frustrated with the lack of what you really want, remind yourself that you are walking toward it. You are not trapped in a static situation. You are moving forward. Soon

Someone approaches you. They seem drawn to you. You want both of you to get value from your interaction. As they speak to you, try asking yourself Who, What, and Why:
Who is this person? See them as they are. Let go of your preconceptions of them. Let go of how you need them to be. If you are open and pay attention, people will always tell you who they are.
What are they saying to me? Listen beyond the words. Hear their intent.
Why are they saying this to me? They could have said this to someone else- they picked you. This is discerning who you are "in relation to" them. It is understanding your present connection with them. From this comes what role to take with