Our culture trains us to compare ourselves to other people. We measure ourselves in relation to others. So when you compare two brands at the grocery store- do you look at what is the same or what is different? You look at what is different, right, so you can buy the better item.
So what do we do when we meet other people? Often, we compare the things that are different in each other. We differentiate ourselves from the other. Developmentally speaking, this is essential in post-adolescence in order to differentiate ourselves from our parents. But how many of us continue to differentiate ourselves from each other as adults. It may be out of habit or maybe we just never learned another
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.