Family systems theory gave us the useful term of "enmeshment." Salvador Minuchin first described, "Interpersonal differentiation in an enmeshed system is poor...in enmeshed families the individual gets lost in the system" (Minuchin, Psychosomatic Families: Anorexia Nervosa in Context. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 1978, p. 30).
When you become enmeshed, you adopt the shared reality of the system that you are in. You can no longer see things as they are. You adopt the fear, guilt, and rules of engagement that the dysfunctional system perpetrates. Once you get enmeshed, you become disenfranchised from yourself to some
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I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.