Many of us let fate take its course with our experiences. We say, "We will see what happens." But what if we want to create our fate and orchestrate the experiences that we want? Creating such experiences requires a foundation of intention and parameters. Intention is asking, “What do I want to happen in this experience? What is the most important thing about this experience?”
Parameters provide structure for your intention to unfold. Parameters include: (1) the things that are required for the experience you want to happen, and (2) the things that have no place in the experience.
My favorite definition of spirituality is: what is important to you. I like it because it demystifies spirituality. Spiritual is often depicted as cosmic, other worldly, and separate from our daily life. The "what is important" definition simply suggests that the things we value and live our lives for comprise our spirituality.
So if raising your children is the most important thing to you right now then that is your spiritual practice. The best spiritual teachers that I have come across have all suggested that it is not what you do, but how you do it that counts.
So why not reflect upon what is important to you at this
Many people translate being special as being ‘more special'. We naturally evaluate ourselves in relation to everybody else. So there is tendency to think: If I am not more special than everybody else, then I am not special. Or: I am special, so I am more special or important than others. Both of these distorted views make it difficult to access your unique natural gift.
The reality is that you are special, but so is everybody else. Everybody is special in a different way. And the world needs each type of specialness to navigate through the challenging time that we are in.
So rediscover and celebrate your specialness- it is beautiful
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.