The I Ching or Book of Changes uses the metaphor of crossing the great water to teach about change. Likewise, an old Zen teaching describes a point in the change process when you are in the middle of the river you are crossing and can see both the river bank or life that you left and the one that you are moving toward. This time of year offers that same opportunity.
Hopefully winter and the holidays has created some time and space for you to disengage from your life in 2015. This detachment creates clarity to see your old life objectively. It is an opportunity to observe your life as it was without being defensive.
You can ask yourself what was working and what was not working. You can ask: What are the things no longer serving me? Are there things that are complete and that I have nothing more to learn from? And, what are the next natural steps to take with the things that I have been developing this past year?
Then as you look to the river bank that you are moving toward, you can ask yourself: What are the possibilities that are coming into view? What am I drawn to as I get closer to the bank? What is important to me? And finally, What do I really want?
The value of this time is that you can see both banks. This allows you to understand how the bank you left relates to the bank you are moving toward. You can see the natural progression of moving from the wisdom of the previous bank to the possibilities and doorways opening in the bank you are moving toward.
So take advantage of this unique vantage point. Soon the previous bank will be out of view and you will be subjectively involved with the new bank and not be able to see the forest for the trees.
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.