Young people have lofty dreams. Being a pro basketball player, fighter jet pilot, rock 'n roll star, surgeon, CEO, or having a large family. Dreams of any type should be encouraged. But such archetypal dreams are often more about what they represent than the specific dream itself.
Many people take their dreams literally. There was a time of Eight is Enough. But now it is 2012 and having 8 children is not as practical as it was 75 years ago when the family needed farm hands. The cost of living has skyrocketed. There are 7 1/2 billion people on the planet. So should someone give up their dream of having a large family? Absolutely not! But it may serve them to investigate the elements of their dream of having a large
family. What does it represent? Is it having a lot of people around? Does it represent a sense of family? Is it correlated to a time when they were happy?
The dreamer can identify the elements of the dream. Then those elements can be adapted to the world as it is today. It may be possible to fulfill the dream of having a large family without having 8 children. Having a family of 2 or 3 children and being the home that encourages the neighborhood kids to come over may fulfill the elements of having a large family.
Identifying the elements of your dream also allows the rekindling of a dream later in life. What if my dream was to play pro basketball and I am 5 foot 10 and 40 years old? Is my specific dream likely? No. Does that mean I need to scrap the dream? Absolutely not. I merely need to define what my dream of playing pro basketball represented. What were the elements of my dream? Was it feeling the magic of being part of an excellent team? If so, there are numerous ways I can experience that.
It may be time to reenvision an old dream...
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009 and will publish my second book Natural Way of Being in 2018.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.