Ever notice how other people's fears don't make any sense? Sometimes we might feel like saying, "So what is the big deal about telling your friend that you are tired of doing all the work?" Well, to that person it is a big deal. It is their fear. Fears are irrational. You do not have the fear, so fearing it does not make sense to you.
Remember that they came by their fear honestly. They probably have the fear because someone they cared about hurt them in the past. Now they are wounded and irrational about that particular situation. They need compassion.
For the record, your fears probably do not make much sense
to them either.
It is vitally important to support the people we care about so that they can expose their fears. Exposing and observing their fear helps them to pull the teeth out of it. Then they can work through it in their own time or choose to hang onto it. That is kinda their choice.
Either way, they probably do not need us looking at them funny and asking them, "So what is the big deal?"
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.