Doors open and doors close. Possibilities present themselves to us and we either have the courage to step into them or we do not. Most of the time there isn't even much of a commitment required at the beginning. So we just have to be willing to walk through a doorway to explore if there is something there for us.But in order to do this we have to overcome our inhibition- our fear of someone not liking us. Or judging or ridiculing us.
The difficult part of not walking through a doorway is that you likely feel regret. I wonder what it would have been like if I asked her out? I wonder what it would be like if I had explored that opportunity oversees or started that business I thought
You will never know. You cannot resolve regret. It eventually has to get translated as a loss. You can try to reclaim it, but it will never be quite the same.
So next time a door opens, why not check it out? Just walk in and explore it for a while. Take it for a test drive.
It is not a trap. It is more of our inhibition and fear that creates the illusion that it is a trap. If it is not for you, leave. Ever walk into an appointment, see evidence and feel that the person/services will not work for you, say this will not work, and leave? Why not? It is a little awkward, but sure beats getting a bad meal or bad haircut. Or leaving your kids with someone that is unreliable.
So check out opens doorways when they present themselves to you. Live free of regrets. Then you will never have to wonder what it would have been like.
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.