They say that one-third of the people we meet don't like us very much. One-third of people we meet naturally like us. And one-third really don't care much either way. Which do you focus on?
Many try to get the people that do not like them to like them. I do not recommend this. It is important to realize that them not liking you is not personal. It is not about you. It is a personality thing. They do not know who you are. It is just what you represent to them. They may not like people that are friendly. They may not like people that look like or have mannerisms like someone they did not like. It is not about you. Do not take it as a rejection. How can someone reject you- if they do not
even know you?
I have heard a sales strategy that says work with the third that like you and try to get the third that do not care to like you. That is not bad advice. Notice it did not say to try to convert the people that do not like you. Equally important is to not allow the people that do not like you to inhibit you. No matter what you do- they are not going to be very impressed. Be yourself. Trying to get them to like you usually makes it worse. Stop wasting your energy on them.
I recommend you focus on the third that like you. That leaves 2 and a third billion people to interact with. Create deeper connections with them. They are your people. They are the people that will naturally be interested in what you are doing. Swim down stream for a while.
You decide whom you interact with every day.
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.