Back when self-help was big on co-dependency, there was a joke: "What happens when a co-dependent dies and crosses over? They see someone else's life pass before their eyes."
What could be more tragic? This begs the question, "Are you living the life that you want?" Or are you going along with the status quo of what others are doing? We have a tendency to follow other people's notions of what life is. We count on our parents, friends, Madison Avenue, or the latest trend to tell us how to live our lives.
But what about what you want. What about your dream? Can you remember it? There couldn't be a better time to
dust your dream off and try it on for size. It has to start by asking yourself what is most important to you. It is your life, after all. So make a list- What is most important to me? Selfish you say? You can create a common dream with others- but it still has to start with knowing what your dream is.
Then ask the tougher question of, "Am I presently on a course to create this dream?" Everything that is not living your dream or taking you closer to it- is a distraction. Don't let yourself get distracted from the things you want most. Don't let others steal your dream.
There is still time. Your dream is still possible. You may have to adjust your course. You may need to hang out with some different people. People that are living their dream; people that are serious about life. Ask them how they got there. You will be amazed how open they are to showing you. Because once you find your dream, it is natural to help other people find theirs.
So what do you have to lose? It may be a little scary rocking the boat. But after all... Whose life is it anyway?
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.