"What's good about this breakup is that you have been brought to your knees by the great leveler of life. Heartache has you upside down and is furiously shaking loose from the crevices of your psyche, every lie you've ever lived with. Every fear you've ever swept under the rug, minimized, or denied is now staring you straight in the face. Every way that you’ve given away your power, denied your own deeper knowing, put someone else’s feelings and needs before your own, stayed embedded in a victimized story, or settled for less in life- all of it is now up for review. You have nowhere to hide. Life has broken you open and it is violently, mercilessly forcing you to evolve, to develop, and to grow."
Katherine Woodward Thomas, 2015, Conscious Uncoupling, (p. 42)