People do not like being told what to do. Yet we want to share things with them. Why not invite them? Invitation is one of the most clear and powerful ways to lead and interact with other human beings.
Invitation works really well if you tell them what you are going to do and then invite them to join you. For example, “I am going to the free concert in the park tomorrow, would you like to join me?” While this seems very simple, it keeps things incredibly clear. It first lets them know where you stand and what you are going to do, and secondly, invites them to be a part of it.
It transforms an interaction that could be perceived as
Life needs to be taken seriously. What we do things affects things near and far. Yet it does not need to be heavy. Heaviness is a result of taking ourselves too seriously- of amplifying things out of proportion. We tell ourselves we are taking life seriously, because we dealing with such important things. And that may be, but when get attached to how important what we are doing is- it gets heavy. There is no lightness or joy in our action. It typically repels other people. We say they just do not understand how important this is. But actually our heaviness was just a drag to be around.
At times our energy might become intense, but that too is
Life is so short. And things change so quickly. Amongst everything that is going on, there is something right now that is highly precious to you. It might be a child, a job, a project, a pet, a friend, a garden, or a place you watch the sunset. It is in that perfect window of sweetness. Right now the door to experience it is open, but in a relatively short period of time it will close.
Do you allow yourself to fully enjoy the things that are precious to you? Do you make time for them? Or do you allow yourself to get distracted from the sweetness and richness right in front of you?
And when life's busyness and people's agendas threaten
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.