Many times experiences that we thought were insignificant or even perceived failures or setbacks guide us to getting what we are after. Ever go one place and see something totally unexpected that fascinates you? If you are willing to explore it, it will often lead to something else which may in turn have a significant effect on your life. There is often a flow we can find that guides us from one thing to another.
There are many complex dynamics going on in the unfoldment of what we are after. Timing is critical. Your frustrating delay could be aligning the timing of things. We may have a painful experience provide a lesson that allows
us to see the really beautiful thing that is presenting itself to us. Without the pain and the lesson we would not have recognized the beauty.
So before you curse a delay, setback, or failure- pay attention. Sniff around a bit. It may make something else possible. It may be that things are trying to line up for you. And if you become angry, frustrated, or disappointed with the perceived negative thing, you may miss the the thing that is trying to present itself.
So next time you hit an unexpected traffic delay or other setback, suspend your frustration for a moment. Try to get beyond the attachment of what you planned or expected. Look around and try to understand the new flow of what is going on. There may be something there for you.
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.