Last week, a friend asked me how my day was and I responded, "It was a bad day." Later I reflected why I decided it was a bad day. I labeled it bad because the things that happened did not go the way I wanted them too. But what if Life had other plans for my day? In my forth-coming book, Natural Way of Being, I assert that when we offer an intention, we initiate a partnership with Life. Life's role in this partnership is to present doorways and situations for the thing we intended to unfold. Our role is to offer a
clear intention and to recognize and step into the doorways.
The powerful thing about this is that Life can see a much larger and more unified picture than we are able to see. Consequently, Life is able to present the perfect thing for us to experience in order to unfold the things we want for ourselves.
Unfortunately, last week I was not able to see that my painful experience would lead to the thing I intended. Instead, I was discouraged that things did not go the way I thought they should. From this perspective, it was a mild form of arrogance to think that I knew better than Life how the day should go. But that's OK. Experience tells me that Life will continue to impartially present the perfect doorways for me to realize my intention.
Ironically, right after I told my friend that it was a bad day, it started getting a lot better. And the beautiful things that unfolded came as a direct result of one of the bad things that happened. In fact, the beautiful experience could not have happened had I not experienced the painful thing. Perhaps I did not give the day enough time.
So next time I have a painful day and a friend asks me how it was, I may respond with, "It was a painful day." And hopefully I will remember that I am just not yet able to see the beauty that may emerge from the painful things that happen on that day.
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.