Men's Coaching & Masculine Roles
Gender-Inclusive, Supportive Coaching to Embody
Dynamic Energy, Confidence, and Masculine Roles
It's not easy being masculine in today's world (regardless of gender).
While this therapy is typically described as Men's Issues, this version is for individuals who choose to adopt a masculine role in their relationships, family, and community
Much of today's masculinity has lost its dynamic energy, confidence, vitality, swagger, and purpose. And this has become a huge problem.
This therapy is for individuals who want to reclaim these dynamic qualities and integrate them into their relationships, careers, and families.
And this integration needs to happen in a world that hasn't decided what healthy masculinity is. Our culture's tendency to focus on toxic masculinity creates confusion and shame.
Yet when we do not show up with our dynamic masculinity, everyone feels that something very essential is missing.
Every so often, you see someone who moves with confidence, vitality, and freedom.
While others are clamoring around, they somehow seem to know what to do. They simply step right up and do their thing. Wherever they are, they seem to feel at ease- like they belong there.
They seem to draw on some kind of purpose and direction that most people lack access to.
Because he seems to know what he's doing, women are naturally attracted to him. And some men and non-binary folk are as well. All sorts of people seem to want to be around him.
And people just feel safe around them. Perhaps they figure, "The whole world's upside down, and this person seems to know what they're doing and where they're going. I'm with them."
Did you ever wonder what's different about people like this? Or how you could get some of that working for you?
What if all the confidence and swagger you ever wanted are already inside you?
And all you really needed to access it was to have a safe place to tap into it? We all have these abilities. They just need to be accessed and developed
This is a huge distinction when assessing confidence, courage, and vitality. Instead of seeking something, you are allowing something out that's already a part of you.
You'll walk with confidence in your relationships and purpose in your life. And after you get a feel for it, it just flows out of you as a natural expression of yourself.
And people respond to you differently. People take you seriously. Women are attracted to you. Men respect you. People feel safe around you.
This all happens energetically. People sense that your words and actions are coming from a different place. They come across as authentic strength and confidence.
And finally, it's so much more enjoyable being you. You're no longer mired in all that self-doubt and self-consciousness. You learn to trust yourself, and your life becomes enjoyable and fulfilling.
Isn't it time you enjoy some dynamic masculinity in your life?
Men's Issues & Masculine Roles Specialties
Bringing Masculine Energy to Relationships
It all starts by investing in yourself and registering for a service. Taking a healthy risk begins your journey to the life you would have for yourself.
Assuming a Dynamic Masculine Role
Skills and integration practices provide resolution for relationship challenges. Continued work opens the door to trust and intimacy.
Owning Your Personal Power & Dynamic Energy
Life Transitions such as Divorce, Empty Nest, Marriage, Grief & Loss, Birth of a Child, Adulthood, & Retirement provide an opportunity for personal growth.
Hi, I'm Michael
I've been facilitating ceremonies, retreats, and coaching sessions for participants to directly experience their true nature and purpose for 35 years.
When I'm not playing the drums, exploring the Pacific Northwest, or interpreting dreams, I'm facilitating coaching sessions and retreats for people to awaken courage and purpose in their lives.
I do this by personally guiding and supporting one person at a time to directly integrate their truth, love, and spiritual connection into their everyday lives.
I developed this approach to Men's Coaching as a place to directly experience your dynamic masculine energy so you can integrate it into your relationships, career, and everyday life.
So join me for the ultimate adventure of understanding your own dynamic nature so you can fully enjoy your life and feel good about what you offer to the world.
How Men's Coaching & Masculine Roles Works
Phase 1
Assess Your Dynamic Masculine Energy
Dynamic masculine energy is vital and full of life. It's confident and has purpose. Purpose is knowing why you are in an experience- that you are there for a reason. When you know your purpose, your actions are deliberate and intentional.
Phase 2
Heal Wounds that Block Your Dynamic Energy
After assessing your dynamic masculine energy, we can trace it to identify the core emotional wounds that obstruct your full stepping into your dynamic energy. Healing these core wounds allows you to fully embody your dynamic energy
Phase 3
Integrate your Dynamic Energy into Your Life
Dynamic energy is developed by learning to trust yourself. This happens through proving to yourself that you have good reason to be self-assured. Then you can introduce it into your career, relationships, family, and your entire life.
Men's Issues and Masculine Roles
Therapy Workflow
This is for those of you who like to see things broken down in the specific work we will be doing together. For some, the above section of the three phases will suffice. Either way is fine. We will address what we need to as we proceed in our work together.
While each client's symptoms of anxiety, depression, and isolation require specific interventions, the following is a general therapy workflow to treat current symptoms and underlying issues to achieve lasting personal freedom.
Phase 1: Assess Your Dynamic Masculine Energy
1. Identify Your Current Symptoms Related to Men's Issues and Challenges Assuming a Masculine Role.
With your life history and experience, and my knowledge of the symptoms of men's issues & assuming masculine roles, we'll compile a list of your current symptoms. During our therapy sessions, we will work together to identify ways to manage each of these symptoms.
2. Explore the Costs and the Payoffs (or Secondary Gains) of Your Men's Issues and Masculine Roles.
What have men's issues and challenges assuming a heatlhy maculine role cost you? Has it hijacked your ability to enjoy the things that matter most to you? Has it prevented you from having loving relationships? Conversely, what are the payoffs of men's issues and maculine role challenges? Have they created a comfort zone? Have they allowed you to hide or avoid things? Addressing these opens the doors for change.
3. Understand the Behavioral Patterns of your Men's Issues and Challenges Assuming a Masculine Role.
These repetitive patterns rob you of your ability to choose what you want in your life because you do them over and over without realizing it. By becoming aware of these patterns, you can choose something different..
4. Create a Personal Program to Relieve Symptoms Related to Men's Issues & Masculine Roles
Together, we will design a personalized program that will alleviate your current symptoms. This program will provide a new orientation for your life and will replace the previous orientation you were conditioned to rely on.
Phase 2: Heal the Wounds that Block Your Dynamic Masculine Energy
1. Walk Your Symptoms of Men's Issues & Masculine Roles Back to their Underlying Core Issues.
Now that you have identified your symptoms related to men's issues and masculine roles, we can walk them back to identify your underlying core issues. Your symptoms point to your core issues if you know what to look for. By addressing your core emotional issues, you can free yourself from experiencing future symptoms and enjoy greater happiness, love, and freedom in your life.
2. Challenge your Limiting Beliefs Associated with your Core Issues.
We acquire various core beliefs about ourselves and the world in childhood, which are reinforced as we grow into adulthood. While these beliefs serve you for a while, they limit you as you grow and mature. We will explore the beliefs and stories you tell yourself that obstruct your life.
3. Disempower the Fear Associated with your Core Issues.
Fear naturally arises as you get close to what you want most. Since fear is future-based, you can break each fear down to an if/then statement about what you believe will happen. This format clarifies how fear limits your life and puts it into terms that are manageable.
4. Heal the Core Emotional Wounds Associated with your Core Issues.
Beneath all the symptoms, core issues, limiting beliefs, and fear, deep-seated emotional wounds reside. They may arise when you become triggered by experiences. They often involve trauma, betrayal, abandonment, and loss. These wounds surfacing offer an opportunity to feel and heal them, creating lasting emotional freedom.
Phase 3: Integrate your Dynamic Masculine Energy into Your Life
1. Consider What You Want in your Life Now that your Symptoms and Underlying Issues No Longer Define what you Can and Can't Have in your Life.
Now you have the freedom to choose and create the things you want for yourself. It helps to break down the things you want in your life into their core elements or essence. Examples of elements include love, friendship, abundance, community, intimacy, strength, and purpose.
2. Create a Clear Intention for the Life You Want.
When you offer your intention, it initiates and activates a new way of being. We work with what you choose to create in your life and boil it down to an intention for your life. This creates a crystal-clear focus for working with and integrating the things you want into your life.
3. Integrate the Things You Want into your Life.
Taking action and practicing trial and error brings the things you want into your life. Introduce new approaches to your life, and notice what works and what doesn't. An updated personal program and therapy sessions provide the guidance and support to sustain these approaches long enough to integrate them into your life.
"The real core of the work I did with Michael is seeing how I have always been looking outward to define myself. What I have found in working with him is that I already had the resources within me to actually create the changes I wanted to make. For me, this has been the pivotal change. I have to say, Michael held my feet to the fire, and that is what I really needed. He helped me get in touch with trusting my heart and moving from that place."
Men's Coaching & Masculine Roles Session
$125
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60-minute Men's Coaching and Masculine Roles Session.
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Facilitated by Michael Hoffman, LCSW, a licensed psychotherapist and spiritual teacher with 30 years of experience.
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Sessions offered on a weekly, every other week, or as-agreed basis.
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Weekly or every other week sessions for 3+ months offer more significant and lasting benefits for your dynamic masculine energy.
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Sessions occur via Teleconference, Phone, or In-Person at the office at 385 E. Main St, Ashland, OR 97520
Men's Coaching and Masculine Roles Sessions and Programs
Natural Way of Being Men's Coaching and Masculine Roles sessions provide a foundation for living your spiritual purpose, leading people, and enjoying loving relationships. They walk you through a complete transition to a new way of being.
Natural Way of Being Men's Coaching and Masculine Roles Personal Programs are ongoing weekly or every-other-week psychotherapy sessions and prescribed practices. If you schedule weekly sessions, you can receive a scheduled session time if you like.
You can also combine Men's Coaching & Masculine Roles Sessions with Weekly Sharing Circles. Combining individual and group work (such as individual sessions every other week and a Weekly Sharing Circle) is powerful and synergistic.
Committing to a personal program of consistent men's coaching sessions and practices for a period of time provides the most effective and efficient way to integrate the vitality, confidence, and purpose of your newfound masculine dynamic energy.