One of the most common limiting belief systems that human beings carry is, “I do not deserve love.” When we believe this and a significant other or friend offers us more love than we feel like we deserve, we tend to unconsciously push them away. Sometimes pushing people away is as subtle as not accepting help from a friend when they extend love to us. Other times it may present as finding things that are wrong with the person we are in a relationship with. Right about the time we start to feeling more love and closeness than we are used to is when our mind typically begins to find
A personal practice I call noticing was a theme that developed during a recent workshop I facilitated on “Trusting Your Heart and Intuition” in Spokane, Washington in January. Since I find myself recommending this practice to clients often these days, I thought I might include an excerpt on "noticing" from my forthcoming book Natural Way of Being. Here is an excerpt from Chapter 2: Noticing is the practice of objectively noticing your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in your everyday experiences. This practice applies the principles of meditation to the experiences that
It’s happened to all of us. You open up your present and see socks or something practical. You smile and say “That’s nice, thank you.” You probably even tell yourself, “Well that’s cool, I can always use socks.” But you were secretly hoping that you got something else – a gift you really wanted. We often gift ourselves the same way. We give ourselves the safe, practical things that are the low hanging
Whether we realize it or not, we carry an intention for the things we want in our life. Life is constantly partnering with us to actualize the thing we intend for ourselves. Life is perpetually guiding us to what we intend by presenting doorways for us to step into. I recently missed the boat. I was tired on an evening after many days of hard work and had planned to relax and
This coming weekend we will set our clocks forward, and it will get dark an hour earlier in the evening. This seems to be the time of year when it begins to hit us that winter and shorter days are here. With increased darkness and longer nights, winter is a natural time of introspection- a time to look inside. So what is going on inside? Internally, we are changing all the time. Our mind, however, likes to see ourselves as static and stable. It creates an identity and personality so we can feel like ourselves. This can make it
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.