It Takes Two To Tango

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Welcome to the Natural Way of Being video blog. This video is titled “It Takes Two to Tango”. So have you ever wondered why some interactions that you have just seem magical and open and connected, and both are just having this great connection, and you're getting insights, and it just seems amazing? And then other interactions that may even be with the same person, it just seems flatter and subdued. And you're left with, “Did I do something wrong? Why isn't it like all open like it was before? Did you ever wonder that? Well, I did. And so I want to start with a story, it was December of this last year, 2020, and we were just starting to do this thing Thursday night…

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… called the sharing circle. And my friend, the one who requested the Sharing Circle, asked, Could we do it like a ceremony? She had done some ceremony at the solstices with us, and she asked, "Can we do a sharing circle as a ceremony?" And I'm like, "Yeah, that's a great idea because we're on Zoom and maybe it'll help people be more open, so it sounds good to me." So we started doing these sharing circles, and I did a little meditation, and then we did some smudge, some sage, and we purified, and then I would call in the spirits and the energies that we were going to work with. And it was amazing because these sharing circles would go really deep, and they would be magical. People were getting these amazing insights, and these truths were coming through, and people were doing this major work.

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It was really cool. I'm like, “This is amazing. I'm so happy about this.” And then I started doing that in some of my sessions too. I would just do the same preparation for the ceremony. But in the sessions, I wasn't doing it with the person like I was doing in the sharing circle, which is kind of interesting; maybe I ought to start doing that with my sessions. But, anyway, some of the sessions would be amazing, open, mind-blowing sessions, and others were not. And the same with some of the shares. I remember one of my friends came into the sharing circle, and I would tell her how awesome they were. And then of course, the one that she comes in, it's the one that was more subdued and had a little lower energy.

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It wasn't as magical. And it's like, "Damn, I must be doing something wrong. I want to make them all magical and amazing. Of course, that would be a natural thing to want. And so I sat with it, it must've been like a month or so. And I prayed on it. I meditated on it. I did self-inquiry work on it. Why is it that sometimes it's magical, and sometimes it's not? And what can I do to make the ones that are not magical, magical? That was really more what my inquiry was. And, of course, I was doing more sessions and more sharing circles, which were giving me more information over the next couple of months. And I started realizing that what it really takes for that magic to happen is that both parties need to choose to be open at a really deep level.

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If we're doing a sharing circle, we have numerous people choosing to be open at a deep level. Or maybe if I'm facilitating, I'm processing with one person, and we're both open at a deep level, then the magic happens. And then other people are touched by the magic, and then they open up, and then it opens up more and more, and it gets more and more magical. So, what I learned is that my responsibility (and what I would maybe suggest your responsibility could be too), my responsibility was to be open. It is to get myself really open, create the conditions to be open, that's why I was doing the ceremony stuff. I mean, those are props and invitations for people to open at a deep level. And then invite them to be open.

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And at that point, that's really all I can do. At that point, it's their choice whether they choose to be open or not. And then to the extent they choose to be open, I meet them at that level of openness, if you will, and then we work there.