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People do not like being told what to do. Yet we want to share things with them. Why not invite them? An invitation is one of the clearest and powerful ways to lead and interact with other human beings. Invitation works really well if you tell them what you are going to do and then invite them to join you. For example, “I am going to the free concert in the park tomorrow, would you like to join me?” While this seems very simple, it keeps things incredibly clear. It first lets

Have you ever been trying to understand something, but your mind is having difficulty grasping it? Your mind just kind of goes blank and you can't quite pull it in. Everything seems hazy and in a fog. If so, you have been to the fringe. It often happens when you are trying to become aware of something on a higher level of consciousness or vibration. You are actually at the edge or fringe of your known reality. It isn't always comfortable at the edge. You keep forgetting what

Being sensitive often makes people nervous. They have to pay more attention to what they say around you. And more aware of how they affect you- and by extension how they affect other people. Being called too sensitive usually means that the person is not comfortable with how sensitive you are. So it might be more honest for them to say, "You are too sensitive for me." I always wondered if sensitive is feeling things deeply, how can you be too sensitive? Perhaps you can take t

In game theory and economics, a zero-sum game is a closed system in which one participant gaining means another must lose. Available resources are limited or finite- so gains and losses must add up to zero. In contrast, a non-zero-sum refers to situations in which gaining does not require someone else to lose. Resources are not limited. In other words, new resources can be tapped into or created. In recent history, business and commerce has primarily operated with a limited r

Original sin is a paramount belief in Christianity and many religions of the world. It says that the basic nature of human beings is morally flawed and full of sin. And that it is only through prayers and God's guidance and grace that we can manage this deficiency. But what if the opposite were true? What if we are light, love, and innocence on the inside and our moral flaws and deficiencies are wrapped around it like layers of an onion? And then after there are enough layers

You were so hopeful. It has happened several times. There was the relationship that you wanted so badly. You could see the possibilities- but he/she could not. There was the dream job. It could've been so cool if upper management didn't bail on your program. Then there was the business, the band, the trip, or the project. It was right there. The stars were aligned. You could see it so clearly. But... apparently your friends, lover, associates, or customers could not. So there

You come back from lunch and your coworker is going through your desk. You walk over and ask him what he's doing. “Oh, our committee needed those color dry erase markers that you have for our presentation. Since you are at lunch, I figured you wouldn't mind if I borrowed them." You feel violated and respond, "Actually I do mind. Please never go through my desk again. If you need to borrow something, just ask me.” He says, "Really? I thought we were beyond that,” and walks aw

Contemporary human beings have a tendency to distort information when translating an experience. We amplify, personalize, or make assumptions about the things we encounter. We then emotionally respond to our translation of the experience rather than the actual experience which often creates unnecessary unhappiness, anxiety, and stress. Amplifying is making something larger-than-life. Unfortunately, our anxiety gets amplified as well. Plus, it often creates a ripple effect on

Sure you could, you just don't want to. You just tell yourself that you can't so you don't have to consider it. When we think of doing something we are drawn to but is out of our comfort zone, it creates conflict and tension. Plus, there is the fear of doing it. The most convenient way to alleviate the tension and fear is to take away the thing we are drawn to. Such is the death of many possibilities, invitations, and ideas- before they ever get a chance. If we would just be

Perfection is doing something according to a preconceived notion of what the right thing to do is. Excellence is exploring what the right thing is in the context of the experience. Perfection is always just out of reach. Excellence is immediately accessible by making a choice. Perfection always has rules about what you need to have before something can be done. Excellence is working with what you have and finding a way that works. Perfection is rigid and static. Excellenc

There seems to be this point in people’s lives when they give up. It goes back to that one painful experience that breaks them. I have heard many of these: getting cheated on, death of someone close, loss of a job, death of a pet, a business folding. Most all of them correlate to the loss of a dream. Since then, you have not really opened your heart as much. You are not quite as hopeful. Perhaps you have gotten a bit cynical. I understand. But it’s time to come back. The worl

Bart Anderson would challenge his students: "All of your feelings eventually do come out to play. You can either address them willingly- or on your hands and knees.” People stress taking responsibility for all kinds of things these days. But what about being responsible for what you are feeling? The overall healthiest thing you can do with a feeling is to express it. Feelings are energy. They work best when we experience (feel) and release (express) them. So it would follow t