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Rogue Valley Men's Circle Fire Ceremony

Awaken Your Dynamic Masculine Energy
Own Your Personal Power
Initiate Your Spiritual Purpose

Every so often, you see a guy who moves with confidence and freedom. 

While others are clamoring around, he somehow seems to know what to do. He just kind of steps right up and does his thing. Wherever he is, he seems to feel at ease- like he belongs there.

He seems to draw on some kind of purpose and guidance that most folks just don't seem to have access to.

Because he seems to know what he's doing, women are naturally attracted to him. And some men and non-binary folk are as well. All sorts of people seem to want to be around him.

And people just feel safe around him. Perhaps they figure, "The whole world's upside down and this guy seems to know what he's doing and where he's going. I'm with him."

Did you ever wonder what's different about guys like this? Or how you could get some of that working for you?

What if all the confidence and swagger you ever wanted are already inside you?

And what if all you really needed to access it was to have a safe place to tap into it?

We all have these abilities. They just need to be accessed and developed.

This is a distinction when it comes to accessing confidence, courage, and vitality. Instead of seeking something, you're allowing out something that's already a part of you.

It all begins with awakening the dynamic masculine energy from the depths of your being.

Pure masculine energy needs to be experienced directly. It happens easiest through primal experiences such as drumming, ceremony, and talking circles around the fire.

Once you connect with your dynamic male energy, qualities like confidence, strength, and charisma naturally become accessible.

Then it's just a matter of learning to trust them in the context of your purpose, career, and relationships.

Integrating dynamic masculine energy into your life changes everything.

You'll walk with confidence in your relationships and purpose in your life. And after you get a feel for it, it just flows out of you. It's a natural expression rather than something you have to muster or create.

And people respond to you differently. People take you seriously. Women are attracted to you. Men respect you. People feel safe around you.

This all happens energetically. People sense that your words and actions are coming from a different place. They come across as a natural strength and authentic confidence.

And finally, it's just a lot more enjoyable being you. You're no longer mired in all that self-doubt and self-consciousness. You learn to trust yourself. Life becomes an exciting adventure, rather than not something to get through.

Isn't it time for a new approach to life?

Five Intentions for Men's Circle Fire Ceremony

There are some essential elements that comprise a conscious relationship. In a sense, they are the key ingredients to a close and loving relationship.

It's effective to develop these elements in a relationship with yourself before or after you enter a conscious relationship. Then can develop an element such as trust and learn to trust yourself.

Once you embody these elements within yourself, it's natural to extend them to a conscious relationship. So the trust you've established with yourself provides a foundation to trust your partner.

1. Everyone Belongs

There are no orphans in men's circle. Everyone belongs. We all come with different histories and perosanaities. In circle, it doesn't matter how cool, popular, or successful you are. These may be our culture's measuring sticks of status and worth, but they don't apply here.

What matters in men's circle is honesty, courage, and openness. It's a place to discover and establish true self-worth. It's true because it's based on things that are real- not social constructs.

So know you belong in the men's circle. And know that everyone else does too. There's no higher and lower here. Just a bunch of guys finding the courage to be real with themselves. And genuinely celebrating it when someone else does.

2. Speak Your Truth

So what do we do in Men's Circle Ceremony? We speak our truth. We find the courage to be honest and share what's really going on with us. How things look to us and how it feels inside.

As the facilitator, I might pass a question around such as, "What's most important to you?" So when the talking stick comes to you, you speak your truth.

You dig down to find what's honestly most important to you even if it's not flattering or impressive. Because we have to start with where we're at not where we're supposed to be.

We've got to get down to the core of our being and build our lives on things that are real. It's here that we build a strong foundation that we can build confidence, accomplishments, and relationships upon.

So leave your ego at the door- as well as your pride and image. Dig deep and find the courage to show us what's really going on in that big heart of yours. Come as you are. We will accept you.

3. Stand in Your Power

We're not taught to stand in our power. We're taught to be afraid of our personal power. Many of us were taught that power and masculinity are destructive or even abusive.

It's actually the misuse of power that's destructive. The irony is that the more we stand in our true power, the less chance we have to being abusive or destructive.

So we have to experience our personal power and dynamic male energy. And Men's Group is the perfect palce to do that. It's safe and supportive, and it gives you honest feedback.

So you be invited an enciurage to step beoynd your shame. No more hanging your head or averting you gaze. No more apologizing for yourself. It's time to feel good about yourself and to stand in it.

4. Know Your Purpose

We all came here for reason- not just to take up space. We each have a spiritual purpose- something that naturally uplifts other people and makes a difference.

When we awaken our sense of purpose and align our lives with it, we start feeling better about ourselves as men. It strengthens our self-worth.

We explore our sense of purpose in the Men's Circle Ceremony. It may start with what we're drawn to and what we're passionate about. We can approach it by how we seem to affect people when our hearts are open.

Do people just naturally seem to trust you or feel safe around you? Do you march to the beat of your own drum? Are you the life of the party?

Even if some of these things have been the source of trouble, they may be important clues to your spiritual purpose. Perhaps our purpose was coming through even when we were acting out or rebelling.

This can be a really enjoyable part of our work in Mens' group. It tends to naturally feel good and meaningful. Many people I have worked with stated it something like, "I always knew there was a purpose to my life. I could just feel it. I just never knew what it was."

5. Listen and Support

In Men's Circle Ceremony, respect begins with listening. It's respecting your brother's words- whether they make sense to you or not. A large part of the magic and power of sharing circle is supporting the person sharing with your full attention.

When you're listening to another person sharing, your role is to hold space and offer energetic support. You have to be willing to allow the person to feel and be willing to feel what you are feeling in response to what they are sharing.

When your heart is open, you naturally empathize and relate with them. And this is where all the magic happens. The secret is... we human beings all have the same issues. We just have different variations of those issues.

We all have trust issues. We've all been betrayed and abandoned. We all doubt ourselves and definitely have difficulty accepting our beauty. And we all have a fear that if we truly expose how it feels inside, people will reject us or leave.

Only you're not going to leave. You're going to stay right there with them. As you empathize and relate to the person sharing, you vicariously go on their journey with them. So all the things they encounter on their emotional and spiritual journey, you are experiencing and feeling with them.

Holding this touches your variation of that issue in you. It kind of sneaks up on you. You didn't even have time to resist it. It just kind of comes up out of nowhere. And if you are willing to stay with it and feel it, it unlocks those things in you.

The Good News Is...

Bringing dynamic masculine energy into your daily life is totally possible.

If you’ve made it this far, you ALREADY know that integrating your dynamic male energy into your everyday life is critical to your happiness and your ability to truly enjoy life.

But maybe you didn’t know that by bringing your spiritual well-being into your life by participating in the Rogue Valley Men's Circle Fire Ceremony you’ll be able to:

  • Directly¬†experience your dynamic masculine¬†energy.
  • Confidently stand in your personal power in your relationships, career, and¬†everyday life.
  • Identify the ways you give away your personal power.
  • Discover your¬†life¬†purpose and spiritual gifts.
  • Disempower¬†the fear, beliefs, and patterns that¬†block your purpose and¬†dynamic masculine¬†energy.
  • Integrate your dynamic masculine energy¬†into your relationships, career, and every aspect of your life.

YES, these outcomes are totally within reach for you (whether you’re starting from scratch or hitting reset for the 10th time)...

... but they DO depend on taking a clear-cut, intentional approach.

One that is time-tested to be effective at guiding clients to fulfill and enjoy all the aspects of their lives for the past 35 years.

One that removes the obstacles to having love and purpose in your life.

And...

One that provides accessible guidance and support every step of the way so you can integrate spiritual well-being and purpose into your relationship, career, and daily life.

And if you’re still with me, then I couldn’t be more excited to introduce you to the Rogue Valley Men's Circle Ceremony.

But first...

MEET YOUR MEN'S CIRCLE COACH

Michael Hoffman

I've been facilitating ceremonies, retreats, and coaching sessions for participants to directly experience their true nature and purpose for 35 years.

When I'm not playing the didgeridoo, exploring the Pacific Northwest, or rooting for the Minnesota Vikings, I'm facilitating coaching sessions and retreats for people to awaken courage and purpose in their lives.

I developed the Rogue Valley Men's Circle Ceremony as a place to directly experience your dynamic masculine energy so you can integrate it into your relationships, career, and everyday life.

So join me for the ultimate adventure of understanding your own dynamic nature so you can actually enjoy your life and feel good about what you offer to the world.

Word on the Street

"I left my job working with a hypnotherapy group to start my own practice. A little more than a month later my wife asked me for a divorce and my world was upended. I was completely unprepared for this.

That is when I called Michael Hoffman. My wife and I did several sessions with him, and though it did not change the outcome, it helped me to see the huge roll that I played in this disaster.

More importantly, it caused me to realize that I needed help, and that is when I began to personally work with Michael on a regular basis. He helped me to fully understand the relationship with my ex and to make necessary amends to her and within myself.

The real core of the work I did with Michael is seeing how I have always been looking outward to define myself. What I have found in working with him is that I already had the resources within me to actually create the changes I wanted to make. For me, this has been the pivotal change.

I have to say, Michael held my feet to the fire and that is what I really needed. He helped me get in touch with trusting my heart and moving from that place."

James Barfoot

ROGUE VALLEY MEN'S CIRCLE FIRE CEREMONY

with MICHAEL HOFFMAN, LCSW

  • Men's Circle Ceremony around the fire.
  • Weekly on Monday nights,¬†6:30-8:30 pm.
  • At¬†Island Firepit,¬†Lithia Park, Ashland, OR.¬†

What could be more natural than gathering around the fire and sharing the challenges of being a man and/or assuming masculine roles in our current culture?

Ceremony: The Men's Circle is conducted as a shamanic ceremony to establish connection and community. It is compatible with any religious and spiritual beliefs. We offer intentions, smudge with sage, and release things into the fire. 

Talking Stick: A weekly theme such as "confidence" or "purpose" is introduced. A talking stick is passed to speak your truth on this topic and things coming up in your life. 

Inclusive: This ceremony is for anyone looking to awaken and integrate dynamic masculine energy and roles. This includes all gender identities and sexual orientations. 

Drug and Alcohol-free: This form of ceremony does not utilize plant medicine or psychedelics. Please do not be under the influence of any drugs or alcohol during this ceremony. 

Facilitator: This ceremony is conducted by Michael Hoffman, LCSW. He is a licensed psychotherapist and spiritual coach. He trained with a spiritual teacher/shaman for 22 years and offered psychotherapy and relationship counseling for the past 28 years.

Safe Space: Michael's role and responsibility as the facilitator is to ensure that the ceremony is emotionally safe. Judgment and criticism will be stopped. He will also encourage you to venture deeper into your dynamic masculine energy.

Age: This ceremony is for ages 18 and older. This all-ages ceremony provides empathy and support between various ages.

Directions: The ceremony is at the Island Fire Pit in Ashland's Lithia Park. It is just south (away from downtown) of the Parks Office between the Cotton Memorial and Hillside on a small island in Ashland Creek. There is a parking area off Granite St.

Show up: Just show up or register below.

Cost. The suggested donation is $15 per circle. You can pay at the ceremony with cash or Venmo. You can pay online with a credit card, debit card, or HSA credit card by registering below.

Info: Feel free to message Michael Hoffman with questions or concerns. Hope to see you there!

HERE'S WHAT YOU'LL GAIN MASTERY WITH:

Mastery #1: Awaken Your Dynamic Masculine Energy

This is where we’ll create a solid foundation. You will start by determining what is most important to you in your relationship and identifying the elements you would like to awaken in it.

Then I will guide you to establish relationship clarity by looking at your relationship exactly as it is, and then discerning what is about you and what is about your partner.

Here are the broad strokes of the first area of mastery:

  • Directly Experience¬†Your¬†Dynamic Male Energy.¬†This may have changed since you last checked. It's different because you are different. Time for an update!¬†This provides an orientation¬†for what you would like to create in your relationship (and perhaps who you'd like to create it with).
  • Familiarize Yourself with¬†the¬†Sensation of¬†Your Pure Masculine. Perhaps it's the feeling of partnership and like you are truly in it together. Or the feeling of closeness and intimacy that¬†you have always sensed is possible. Or maybe it‚Äôs being with someone that can love you exactly the way you are.
  • Engage Your¬†Pure Masculine with Supportive People. Relationship clarity requires the willingness to objectively see¬†your current¬†or past relationship exactly as it is. It's asking yourself: How are we together? What is¬†the nature of¬†our relationship? How would¬†I describe it to someone that never saw us together?
  • Apply¬†Self-Inquiry¬†to¬†get to the¬†Core of Your¬†Pure Masculine.¬†Once you see your relationship as it is, you can continue to deepen your relationship clarity by clarifying the things in the relationship that are about you and the things that are about your partner.

Mastery #2: Own Your Personal Power

Here is where things get fun - and exciting :)

Now you’ve found relationship clarity and understanding of your relationship patterns, you can take things to a whole new level by bringing some of this newfound clarity and awareness into your actual relationship.

Here’s what you’ll soon be activating:

  • Experience Your Personal Power.¬†Even if you're creating a relationship with the partner you have been relating to,¬†this is an opportunity to create¬†a¬†new, loving relationship with them. When you offer your intention, it activates this¬†loving¬†relationship in your life.¬†
  • Identify the Ways You Give Away Your Personal Power. There's no better way to learn about¬†a loving relationship than doing it. In fact, it's the only way.¬†I'll point you in the right direction, but the art of a loving relationship¬†is learned via trial and error. But this is¬†what you've been waiting for.
  • Stand in Your Personal Power in your Daily Life. ¬†Your relationship patterns are usually associated with deep-seated fears and limiting beliefs. Becoming aware of fears such as the fear of intimacy allows you to disempower them which makes deep intimacy and loving relationship available to you.
  • Initiation Ceremony¬†to Activate Your Personal Power.¬†Notice what works and what doesn't. Your best guide is to notice whether the things you try lead you to¬†feel close or distant. Do they create connection or separation? And adjust. Repeat¬†those that create connection¬†and discard those that create separation.

Mastery #3: Initiate Your Spiritual Purpose

Awesome!

You’ve set your foundation! You identified the things truly want in your relationship and established some relationship clarity. You’re on a roll!

This second area of mastery is perhaps the most challenging and most powerful one of the bunch. The personal freedom and empowerment it creates in itself are easily worth the price of the sessions.

It requires rigorous honesty and courage to look at your relationship patterns. Once you see and understand these repetitive patterns, the rest of your transition to a loving relationship is inevitable. In this case, the truth really does set you free.

I will start the ball rolling by asking some questions and gently pointing some things out. You will participate in the investigation by looking at the things that have been holding you back. Challenging yes, but you can do this. We’re in it together!

Here are some of the things we will look at:

  • Discover Your Spiritual Purpose. So now that you've begun to discern what is about you and what is about your partner in Session 1, let's focus on your side of the fence for a while. But not in a critical way, we are just looking to learn about how you are relating
  • Identify Your Spiritual Gifts. These repetitive patterns rob you of your ability to choose what you want in your relationship because you do them over and over without realizing it. By becoming conscious of these patterns, you get the opportunity to choose something different.
  • Disempower the Fear, Beliefs, and Patterns that Block Your Purpose. Your relationship patterns are usually associated with deep-seated fears and limiting beliefs. Becoming aware of fears such as the fear of intimacy allows you to disempower them which makes deep intimacy and loving relationship available to you.
  • Initiation Ceremony to Activate Your Spiritual Purpose. Once you become aware of the patterns, fears and limiting beliefs that no longer serve you, it only makes sense to release them away from yourself. I use personal ceremony to create a space where you can release these things and commit to a relationship with love and intimacy.

Mastery #4: Integrate Your Dynamic Energy into Your Relationships

By this point, you have built a huge amount of self-awareness and intention. But now essential to experience some of that love and intimacy we've been talking about.

Ironically, many succumb to their resistance and stop here. But this is what I always wanted you might point out, but this is where it becomes real. Really real. It's where you share your heart and allow yourself to be loved.

While it's natural to feel uneasy being in new territory, let this be the grand adventure that it is. This is what you have been preparing for...

  • Understand How to Apply your Pure Masculine Energy in Your Relationships. Together, you explore creating experiences to share and allowing others to naturally arise. Diversity is best. Fun experiences. Sad, formal, casual, adventurous, romantic, and practical experiences.¬† Different experiences evoke different things. All the world's a stage.¬†¬†
  • Identify your Relationship Patterns.¬†Intimacy is about exposure and discovery. And you can lead by exposing how the various experiences that you share with your partner feel to you. You will inevitably feel vulnerable. That means you're on the right track.
  • Introduce¬†your Dynamic Masculine Energy¬†into Your Relationships. Now you can invite your partner to share how things feel to him or her. This is best orchestrated by having an inquisitive mind. It si finding that place of innocent curiosity where you truly want to know what it is like for him or her. And asking.
  • Integrate Your Dynamic Male Energy Into Your Relationships. There's your world, their world, and¬†the shared world. Spend time in each. Spending time in your world allows exposure. Time in theirs brings discovery. And your shared world is your special place.¬†This blended¬†place creates a space the world has never seen.

Questions People Asked Before Saying "YES" to Men's Circle Fire Ceremony

Rogue Valley Men's Circle Fire Ceremony

$15 Donation

  • A weekly Men's Circle Fire Ceremony around the fire on Monday nights from 6:30-8:30 pm at the Island Fire Pit in scenic Lithia Park in Ashland, Oregon.
  • Conducted¬†as a shamanic ceremony to establish connection and community. It's compatible with any religious¬†& spiritual beliefs.
  • Conducted by Michael Hoffman, LCSW, licensed psychotherapist and spiritual coach.
  • Inclusive. It's for anyone looking to awaken and integrate dynamic masculine energy and roles. This includes all gender identities and sexual orientations.
  • Drug and alcohol-free. It does not utilize plant medicine or psychedelics. Please do not be under the influence of any drugs or alcohol¬†for this ceremony.
Register Now

And...

Perhaps you want to dive deeper prefer in an individual session.

Some people choose to do a combination of Men's Circles and Individual Sessions.

Individual Men's Coaching Session

$125

  • 60-75 minute Individual Men's Coaching Session.
  • Conducted by Michael Hoffman, LCSW, licensed licensed¬†psychotherapist and spiritual coach.
  • Sessions take place on Zoom or in person at¬†my Ashland, Oregon office.
  • Sessions¬†work well as an addition to the Men's Circle Ceremony.
Register Now

Still Undecided?

You know you're ready to awaken confidence and purpose in your life with the Men's Circle if...

1. You’re just starting to explore how to bring confidence and purpose into your life, and you want to make sure it plugs it into your life right out of the gates by using only the most powerful, personalized, and easy-to-follow strategies.

2. You’ve been trying to bring confidence and purpose into your life for months (or even years), but haven’t seen noticeable results in your life. If anything, the gap between being confident and what you've been experiencing has gotten wider.

3. You already KNOW the qualities you want in your life. Sure, you are open to some guidance and support in the Men's Circle to learn how to plug it in... but for the most part, you know what you want, and you are ready to enjoy it in your life.

4. You have no problem investing 3 hours per week as long as you know that every bit of time and energy you invest is an effective step forward in having confidence, purpose, and joy in your life.

5. In fact, you’re ALREADY investing lots of time and energy doing things like listening to podcasts, watching Youtube videos, and reading books. 

The only problem is, without a supportive and interactive place to tie these ideas altogether, you are left wondering, “Is all this stuff really working?”

6. You want something that works: You have heard about or even tried men's circles or counseling before. You paid your money, invested the effort, (and worst of all, got hopeful), only to land back in the same lonely and unfulfilling place.

You want a program that actually results in experiencing some noticeable confidence and self-assuredness in your life.

7. You can actually envision the confident and self-assured you that will come to life once you add some guidance and support. You can see what it would be like to feel comfortable in your own skin. You’ve always known it was possible.

8. You’re excited to try the Men's Circle. Even if you’ve been side-tracked and let down before, you’re currently feeling a wave of renewed optimism.

You realize that by this time next week, you can be sitting around a fire with a group of men with a common goal which will begin your journey toward enjoying friendships, work, and relationships in a more natural way.

If you caught yourself nodding your head to at least 5 of the 8 points above, then I absolutely cannot wait to meet you in the Men's Circle.

Rogue Valley Men's Circle Fire Ceremony

$15 Donation

  • A weekly Men's Circle Fire Ceremony around the fire on Monday nights from 6:30-8:30 pm at the Island Fire Pit in scenic Lithia Park in Ashland, Oregon.
  • Conducted¬†as a shamanic ceremony to establish connection and community. It's compatible with any religious¬†& spiritual beliefs.
  • Conducted by Michael Hoffman, LCSW, licensed psychotherapist and spiritual coach.
  • Inclusive. It's for anyone looking to awaken and integrate dynamic masculine energy and roles. This includes all gender identities and sexual orientations.
  • Drug and alcohol-free. It does not utilize plant medicine or psychedelics. Please do not be under the influence of any drugs or alcohol¬†for¬†this ceremony.
Register Now

And...

Perhaps you want to dive deeper prefer in an individual session.

Some people choose to do a combination of Men's Circles and Individual Sessions.

Individual Men's Coaching Session

$125

  • 60-75 minute Individual Men's Coaching Session.
  • Conducted by Michael Hoffman, LCSW, licensed licensed¬†psychotherapist and spiritual coach.
  • Sessions take place on Zoom or in person at¬†my Ashland, Oregon office.
  • Sessions¬†work well as an addition to the Men's Circle Ceremony.
Register Now