Video Summary:

One of our greatest emotional and spiritual needs is for people to accept us for who and what we are. This functions when we're authentic, vulnerable, and exploring an unconscious aspect of ourselves, and there are people who are able to accept that part of us.

The good news is that there are people that can do that. The not-as-great news is it may not be the people that you think it should be. Sometimes we expect family members, friends, significant others, and parents to accept us for who we are. And sometimes they do not.

My truth is that the person or people you're with are either able to accept who and what you are in that moment or they're not. And if they're not accepting you for who they are, chances are they're not able to. They may even want to.

I want to cover three different reasons that people are not able to accept you for who you are. The first is they can't comprehend who you are or that aspect of you. This is a level of consciousness thing. People can't comprehend something that's beyond their level of consciousness.

When you share a part of you that comes from a level of consciousness that's higher than theirs, they are not able to comprehend it. They may translate what you are sharing into their level of consciousness, but they can’t vibrate with what you are sharing with them because it is only theoretical to them.

The second reason happens when who you are is perceived as threatening to them. Sharing an aspect of your beauty or truth may become threatening to them because they do not see themselves as that. So there's a tendency for them to put it down or talk you out of it, often unconsciously.

The third one is who you are is other than how they need you to be. This gets into role dynamics. Your family and friends are comfortable seeing you in a certain way. When you awaken an aspect of yourself that’s outside of this, they may not be able to accept that you're other than who they need you to be.

We have this tendency to try to get people to accept us for who and what we are even when they are not able to. We think if we just can show them more of it or explain it just right, maybe then they'll accept us as we are. And of course, that usually makes it worse. And it's not fair to either of you.

It's not fair to you because you're not getting what you need. It's not fair to them because you're asking them to do something and be something that they're not able to do.

So the better thing to do is to accept that they can't accept that aspect of you, at least right now. And to find someone who can. Your time and energy are much better served in finding people who can.

This is a lot of why we do sharing circles, dream groups, and retreats. It's an arena where you can be yourself. There's a group of people that have a pretty high vibration so they're able to accept many things.

You can take this new, vulnerable part of you, share it, and have it celebrated. People can be there with you. There are likely people in the circle who have awakened or are in the process of awakening that part of them so they can vibrate with you. Of course, this also happens with people other than in sharing circle.

So my invitation is to notice when you have a new dream, intention, or thing that you're developing that you want to share with someone. We need people on a regular basis to be able to support us when want to talk about a breakthrough, set-back, or a new doorway as we unfold a new part of ourselves.

You owe it to yourself to find someone that's able to celebrate it. If you’re not able to share it with the person you’d like, you can still share other things with them, but probably not the new part of you. But if you look around, there will be someone who can accept and celebrate that new aspect of you.