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Inside or Outside Oct 03, 2023

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The invitation of this spiritual inquiry is to consider whether each of the things presented is something that's outside of you, inside of you, or both. Do you experience it outside of yourself or inside of yourself?

I want to apply this to a few things. The first of which is...

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What were you expecting? Oct 21, 2022

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I want to start with a story that happened many times in my work with my teacher. I would be voicing a complaint to my teacher about how someone that I was relating to was not reliable, responsible, or whatever else. totally listen, get this big smile, and say, “Well,...

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Understanding Your Relationship Pattern Jul 07, 2022

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At some l essential level, everything is a relationship. Obviously, we have our relationships with our significant others, family, friends, and community. And then that extends spiritually to a relationship with nature, a relationship with the planet, and a relationship to God...

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The Value of Projection Jul 03, 2022

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I'm going to talk about projection. It's a term or a concept that was invented by Sigmund Freud, and then later developed by Carl Jung and other psychoanalysts. Projection is when we take part of ourselves and project it onto another person. And we're unconscious that it's...

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Honesty Revisited Oct 26, 2021

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A really useful way to think about honesty is to view it in terms of acting, speaking, and relating congruently and in accord with what you're experiencing inside. And the things we experience inside include our feelings, opinions, thoughts, beliefs, the...

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Let's Talk About Sex with Dr. Jane Guyn Oct 10, 2019

Michael Hoffman interviews Dr. Jane Guyn about the dynamics in couples around sexuality and the challenges that can arise with it. Jane discusses her clinical practice and upcoming workshop, both of which are intended to guide couples to establish fulfilling sex and intimacy and to overcome...

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Trust is Precious Mar 01, 2014

Trust takes time to build. Yet without it, many essential things cannot happen. Trust usually trumps other factors- it affects things at the emotional level.

You can't fake trust, and you can't establish it at the intellectual level. While it may be a start, all the trust-building self-talk in...

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Team-up Against Each Other's Obstacles Nov 29, 2011

We all get blocked, stuck, or overwhelmed on creative projects. So team-up with someone.

Create a team with your husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend, friend, colleague, or associate. Have each of you identify something that you have resistance toward or are overwhelmed by. Pick someone to go...

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Breaking Unwritten Contracts in Relationships Feb 03, 2010

All relationships are contractual. Often these contracts are unwritten and unsaid- yet they control most of the experiences of the relationship. We are typically not consciously aware of what we have agreed to with this person.

During this wintertime of introspection, we may become aware that a...

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Metaphor of the Rose: With Beauty Comes Pain Dec 07, 2009

One of my all-time favorite metaphors is that of the rose. It has beauty and delicateness, but also thorns. My interpretation is that with beauty comes pain.

With the love and the unfoldment of beauty with another human comes inevitable pain. They are a package deal. We can't care that deeply...

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Power Struggle: No, You Come Into My World! Nov 13, 2009

Most of us have experienced a power struggle in a relationship. No fun. But what is it really about? Many power struggles with couples are about each trying to get the other to come into their world.

The stronger or more determined of the two usually wins. The loser resents the winner; the...

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Where We Spend the Holidays Matters Nov 02, 2009

Wherever we spend our holidays says which family is most important to us. Whichever family gets the most priority during the holidays is our primary family.

What is the important part of my holiday and with whom I spend that? Do we go to their house, or do they come to ours? Where is...

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