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I've been seeing a pattern in the clients, coworkers, and people I bump into of seeking things from people, communities, and organizations that are not able to provide them. The things being sought include being appreciated, loved, understood, accepted, or validated.
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I want to contrast two ways of interacting with people. The first is It's looking outside of selves for validation, acceptance, and fitting into a group. Most of us were conditioned with this tendency.
This can be a challenging issue to look at in ourselves. It's getting over...
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I'm going to start with a story that actually happened this past week. I work at a hospital in Medford, Oregon and it is going through some serious financial challenges.
We got a new CEO in, and he is saying everything's on the table for cuts and there have been layoffs....
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A concept that I call contracts is very useful to understand some of the dynamics that happen in relationships. Contracts are agreements that we create with someone else in a relationship. This could be any type of close relationship including romantic, parent, child, sibling,...
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One of my favorite teachings is that people will always show you who they are. It's become my truth as I've noticed it over the years. People show us who they are through their actions. Even if they're being deceptive or manipulative, they’ll still show us who they are...
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What are your standards of interaction? One of my standards of interaction is treating other people with respect. I've done a lot of work on myself to truly respect myself and other people. I have a standard that we respect each other in the interactions that I am in.
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I want to contrast true compassion with what I call misguided compassion. Misguided compassion has been called other things including codependency, caretaking, and enabling. But I'm going to use the term misguided compassion because it's specific and contrasts nicely with true...
