Video Summary:

For this week's video blog, I included one last clip of a Q-and-A session on Zoom for Chapter 4 of my book Natural Way of Being which happened on May 4. It begins with Kate asking me a question regarding thought-based emotion and pure emotion.

Kate (summarized): So it sounds like anger tends to be thought-based. And passion too. But then as you were talking, I started to think: well, can't any emotion be both? For example, fear can definitely be thought-based as we have these thoughts in this narrative, but then fear can also be pure and instinctual. So then it got me thinking, can any emotion be pure and thought-based?

Michael (summarized): Yes! So the clarifying question to ask is: what's generating it? So say you allow energy in and someone is disrespectful to you, and you feel anger. In this case, anger is not reactionary, it's a pure feeling. And then your call for action is, “Back off buddy.” And it provides that strong, yang energy for you to take action.

On the contrary, what if your mind is generating anger? An example of this is: “The more I think about this, the more pissed I'm getting." That's a real sign of a thought-generated feeling.

This is where pop psychology has really done us a disservice by calling anger and fear secondary feelings. That just reinforces that women aren't supposed to be angry. Sometimes anger is a pure feeling, and the call for action is strong and angry.

And it's strong for a reason. Your call for action is saying you need to use strong energy. This isn't time to be ‘nice Kate’. It’s time to be ‘leave me the f**k alone Kate’. Because he's gonna feel the energy behind your words.

So our call for action has a verbal content part to it, but it has an energetic component. It’s the energy that lets him know that you mean business. That if he does this again, it's not gonna go well for him. Diana calls it mama bear energy. It's the energy and action that happens when you're messing with a mama bear's cubs.

When that energy comes out of anyone's mouth, but especially a woman's mouth, Mr. Rico Suave’ at the bar is gonna go running with his tail between his legs like a little dog. That’s part of your personal power, but you only access it when you embrace your call for action.

So you gotta get over the conditioning and realize that anger is not always bad. Anger is just energy. When someone violates your space, anger is the appropriate energy. The energy generated from the call for action in your solar plexus has its own vibration. It has a life essence of its own. And then people feel your words, and they resonate with them.