I have had the privilege to observe many human beings touch extremely beautiful spaces inside themselves and in their interactions with other people. They are usually amazed by the joy and freedom that comes with such experiences. It takes them beyond the reality they are accustomed to.
I have also observed that some time shortly after this, perhaps the next morning, their ego attempts to discount the experience they had. It typically finds something wrong with the experience or the person/people that they had the experience with. The presiding ego defends its turf. The empire strikes back.
When you allow yourself to have a beautiful experience that lies outside of your reality and belief system, one of two things has to happen. You either expand your reality to include the new experience and the beauty and freedom it contains (in which case, your ego or keeper of your old reality will have to die), or you discount the experience so you can return to your previous reality.
Everyone has experienced this at one point or another. You may have had a really good time on a date or with someone that you like. And then you wake up the next morning and begin to find things wrong with them. I often see it during workshops or ceremonies when someone allows themselves to experience a new level of personal freedom. Before long, their ego will do its best to discount what happened. It usually claims that what they experienced was not real in one form or another. So then of course they get the choice of which reality they are going to go with.
If you allow yourself to have a beautiful experience, you can almost count on your ego trying to discount it or tear it down. If you realize this, you can be aware of what it happening, observe it, and make a free choice.
The choice is usually based on how much beauty you can stand.
About the Author
I, Michael Hoffman, am a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and author with 25 years experience in counseling and teaching experiential workshops. I have maintained this blog since 2009, and my second book Natural Way of Being will published in 2019.
I offer in-person and video-conferencing counseling, intensive workshops, and online courses to allow participants to directly experience their natural way of being and the life they would have for themselves.