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Video Blog Summary: Stop Editing Yourself

Have you ever had something to say to someone and held it back? Or edited what you’re saying they are comfortable with it.

I wonder if we are protecting people from what they might feel if we say what our heart is guiding us to say to them.

Our culture is...

Video Blog Summary: Ask For What You'd Like

As we approach the holidays in this most unusual year, what are you wanting to happen during the holidays? And, are you willing to ask for it?

There’s often a pattern to hope the things we want will magically happen. So we don’t ask for it or create it. ...

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Two friends and I were doing a healing meditation to send energy for people to unify after the election.

Shortly after we started to meditate, an idea came to me to send energy for people to unify by understanding each other’s perspectives. And then I immediately heard a voice...

People have issues with you. Ironically, the more character you have, the more issues people likely have with you.

But never forget whose issues they are. It is their issue with you. And keep in mind, they really believe it is your issue.

Your choice is to take on other people's issues with you ...

Family, friends, parents, and colleagues tend to give advice or suggestions to the people that they care about. However, most offer advice based on what they would do if they were in that person’s situation.

The problem is they are not that person. What is good for them may not be good for the per...

People do not like being told what to do. Yet we want to share things with them. Why not invite them? An invitation is one of the clearest and powerful ways to lead and interact with other human beings.

Invitation works really well if you tell them what you are going to do and then invite them to j...

You come back from lunch and your coworker is going through your desk. You walk over and ask him what he's doing.

“Oh, our committee needed those color dry erase markers that you have for our presentation. Since you are at lunch, I figured you wouldn't mind if I borrowed them."

You feel violated...

Who is threatened by your success? Who gets scared when you let yourself shine? Do you crawl back in your box when you see the frightened look on their face?

Intellectually, we know that we are not doing anyone any favors by protecting them. Holding yourself back for another person to feel safe is ...

You can walk through life open or shut down. So how can you stay open and vulnerable without being taken advantage of or setting yourself up for the slaughter?

The best skill I have come across for this was taught to me by Bart Anderson. He called it "folding over the envelope".

We tend to view o...

We are determined to change people. We want people to be who we think they should be. We want people to be who we need them to be.

It doesn't seem to matter to us if it is something that they want to be. It doesn't even seem to matter if it is something they are able to be.

Yet when they turn ou...