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Buddhism clearly identifies attachment as the thing that prevents us from being free. The pattern I have been noticing in myself and my clients is that attachment almost always stems from needing something to be something it is not. We become attached to things being the way we need them to be.

The...

One of my favorite definitions of spirituality is: what is important to you. I like it because it demystifies spirituality. Spiritual is often depicted as cosmic, otherworldly, and separate from our daily life.

This "what is important" definition simply suggests that the things we value and live o...

We are trained to look outside of ourselves for answers. But our truth lies inside, along with our instincts, intuition, and spiritual connection. But in order to tap into these things, we have to develop our internal resources.

Like all skills, these resources are developed by using them. In othe...

Family, friends, parents, and colleagues tend to give advice or suggestions to the people that they care about. However, most offer advice based on what they would do if they were in that person’s situation.

The problem is they are not that person. What is good for them may not be good for the per...

Reliability, dependability. Consistency and steadfastness. Durability. My tradition calls it Buffalo Medicine.

It is grounded. It is not flashy. It does not draw attention to itself. People with buffalo medicine quietly go about their business supporting and uplifting everyone and everything aroun...

I have had the privilege to observe many human beings touch extremely beautiful spaces inside themselves and in their interactions with other people.

They are usually amazed by the joy and freedom that comes with such experiences. It takes them beyond the reality they are accustomed to.

I have al...

It is springtime- the perfect time of the year for new aspects of you to be born. Often, the new aspects that emerge do not have any form.

They are still pure concepts or ideas. You may have a feeling or picture of it, but not yet understand how it will unfold. It may not be clear how it fits into...

People do not like being told what to do. Yet we want to share things with them. Why not invite them? An invitation is one of the clearest and powerful ways to lead and interact with other human beings.

Invitation works really well if you tell them what you are going to do and then invite them to j...

Have you ever been trying to understand something, but your mind is having difficulty grasping it? Your mind just kind of goes blank and you can't quite pull it in. Everything seems hazy and in a fog. If so, you have been to the fringe.

It often happens when you are trying to become aware of someth...

Being sensitive often makes people nervous. They have to pay more attention to what they say around you. And more aware of how they affect you- and by extension how they affect other people.

Being called too sensitive usually means that the person is not comfortable with how sensitive you are. So ...

In game theory and economics, a zero-sum game is a closed system in which one participant gaining means another must lose. Available resources are limited or finite- so gains and losses must add up to zero.

In contrast, a non-zero-sum refers to situations in which gaining does not require someone ...

Original sin is a paramount belief in Christianity and many religions of the world. It says that the basic nature of human beings is morally flawed and full of sin. And that it is only through prayers and God's guidance and grace that we can manage this deficiency.

But what if the opposite were tru...