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People find themselves in life situations they need to complete and understand. True compassion is allowing them (or yourself) to work out what they need to.
We allow children to learn the lessons they need. Well, adults are trying to learn lessons too. Why not extend that same courtesy to them? Le...
Your ability to attain what you want depends on the way that you view yourself in relation to what you want.Ā Decide what you want and commit yourself to it. Know that it is going to happen- it is just a matter of time.
Every day take another step closer to what you want. It could be a small step l...
IsĀ the glassĀ half-full or half-empty?
Do you focus on the people that like you or the people that don't like you? Do you focus on the 10 positive things in your employee review or the 1 negative? Do you focus on the things you have or the things you don't have?
Many of us focus on the negative. ...
You can walk through life open or shut down. So how can you stay open and vulnerable without being taken advantage of or setting yourself up for the slaughter?
The best skill I have come across for this was taught to me by Bart Anderson. He called it "folding over the envelope".
We tend to view o...
Our deepest issues are with ourselves. All anger, resentment, regret, and betrayal are ultimately self-directed- if we are willing to take them deep enough. Once we see and accept that it is us that let us down, true healing can begin.
This healing is accomplished by finding compassion for yourself...
In our busy lives, one experience tends to blend into another. Often we do not complete the previous experience before starting the next one.
This keeps us from being present. The unfinished experiences start to build up and keep us anxious and overwhelmed.
A way to complete experiences and not ...
All relationships are contractual. Often these contracts are unwritten and unsaid- yet they control most of the experiences of the relationship. We are typically not consciously aware of what we have agreed to with this person.
During this wintertime of introspection, we may become aware that a re...
All things affect. Continuing with the seasonal theme of introspection and reevaluating our lives, it is essential to consider how the environments we expose ourselves to affect us.
Environments include our home, neighborhood, workplace, relationship, friendships, and social arenas.
One of the st...
Choosing and understanding the nature of your forthcoming interactions is essential. Once you have set up your interaction properly, it is vitally important to let go and surrender to the experience.
I picture this as pushing your boat in the right direction before you let go and experience where ...
One of my all-time favorite metaphors is that of the rose. It has beauty and delicateness, but also thorns. My interpretation is that with beauty comes pain.
With the love and the unfoldment of beauty with another human comes inevitable pain. They are a package deal. We can't care that deeply with...
What is sacred to us are the things that are most important to us. When we share these parts of ourselves we become exposed and vulnerable.
We have an emotional and spiritual need to share these sacred things with people. This is what intimacy and closeness are. I refer to this as allowing them in...
UpĀ until a couple of hundred years ago, Native American tribes of the plains were dependent on the Buffalo for food and survival. They used every part of the buffalo for sustenance.
If a person were to see a herd of buffalo on the plains, the first thing that he or she would do is go back and tell...
