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You were so hopeful. It has happened several times. There was the relationship that you wanted so badly. You could see the possibilities- but he/she could not.

There was the dream job. It could've been so cool if upper management didn't bail on your program. Then there was the business, the band, ...

You come back from lunch and your coworker is going through your desk. You walk over and ask him what he's doing.

“Oh, our committee needed those color dry erase markers that you have for our presentation. Since you are at lunch, I figured you wouldn't mind if I borrowed them."

You feel violated...

Contemporary human beings have a tendency to distort information when translating an experience. We amplify, personalize, or make assumptions about the things we encounter.

We then emotionally respond to our translation of the experience rather than the actual experience which often creates unnece...

Sure you could, you just don't want to. You just tell yourself that you can't so you don't have to consider it. When we think of doing something we are drawn to but is out of our comfort zone, it creates conflict and tension.

Plus, there is the fear of doing it. The most convenient way to alleviat...

Perfection is doing something according to a preconceived notion of what the right thing to do is.  

Excellence is exploring what the right thing is in the context of the experience.

Perfection is always just out of reach.  

Excellence is immediately accessible by making a choice.

Perfecti...

There seems to be this point in people’s lives when they give up. It goes back to that one painful experience that breaks them.

I have heard many of these: getting cheated on, death of someone close, loss of a job, death of a pet, a business folding. Most all of them correlate to the loss of a dre...

Bart Anderson would challenge his students: "All of your feelings eventually do come out to play. You can either address them willingly- or on your hands and knees.”

People stress taking responsibility for all kinds of things these days. But what about being responsible for what you are feeling? T...

We all get blocked, stuck, or overwhelmed on creative projects. So team-up with someone.

Create a team with your husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend, friend, colleague, or associate. Have each of you identify something that you have resistance toward or are overwhelmed by. Pick someone to go first ...

Who is threatened by your success? Who gets scared when you let yourself shine? Do you crawl back in your box when you see the frightened look on their face?

Intellectually, we know that we are not doing anyone any favors by protecting them. Holding yourself back for another person to feel safe is ...

Feeling trapped is not a pleasant feeling. Oppression comes from the inability to see the possibilities available to you. So being trapped ultimately is an illusion. But when you are in the middle of it, it sure feels real.

The first thing to understand is that the source of the oppression is insid...

People find themselves in life situations they need to complete and understand. True compassion is allowing them (or yourself) to work out what they need to.

We allow children to learn the lessons they need. Well, adults are trying to learn lessons too. Why not extend that same courtesy to them? Le...

Your ability to attain what you want depends on the way that you view yourself in relation to what you want. Decide what you want and commit yourself to it. Know that it is going to happen- it is just a matter of time.

Every day take another step closer to what you want. It could be a small step l...