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Bart AndersonĀ would challenge his students: "All of your feelings eventually do come out to play. You can either address them willingly- or on your hands and knees.ā
People stress taking responsibility for all kinds of things these days. But what about being responsible for what you are feeling? T...
We all get blocked, stuck, or overwhelmed on creative projects. So team-up with someone.
Create a team with your husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend, friend, colleague, or associate. Have each of you identify something that you have resistance toward or are overwhelmed by. Pick someone to go first ...
Who is threatened by your success? Who gets scared when you let yourself shine? Do you crawl back in your box when you see the frightened look on their face?
Intellectually, we know that we are not doing anyone any favors by protecting them. Holding yourself back for another person to feel safe is ...
Feeling trapped is not a pleasant feeling. Oppression comes from the inability to see the possibilities available to you. So being trapped ultimately is an illusion. But when you are in the middle of it, it sure feels real.
The first thing to understand is that the source of the oppression is insid...
People find themselves in life situations they need to complete and understand. True compassion is allowing them (or yourself) to work out what they need to.
We allow children to learn the lessons they need. Well, adults are trying to learn lessons too. Why not extend that same courtesy to them? Le...
Your ability to attain what you want depends on the way that you view yourself in relation to what you want.Ā Decide what you want and commit yourself to it. Know that it is going to happen- it is just a matter of time.
Every day take another step closer to what you want. It could be a small step l...
IsĀ the glassĀ half-full or half-empty?
Do you focus on the people that like you or the people that don't like you? Do you focus on the 10 positive things in your employee review or the 1 negative? Do you focus on the things you have or the things you don't have?
Many of us focus on the negative. ...
You can walk through life open or shut down. So how can you stay open and vulnerable without being taken advantage of or setting yourself up for the slaughter?
The best skill I have come across for this was taught to me by Bart Anderson. He called it "folding over the envelope".
We tend to view o...
Our deepest issues are with ourselves. All anger, resentment, regret, and betrayal are ultimately self-directed- if we are willing to take them deep enough. Once we see and accept that it is us that let us down, true healing can begin.
This healing is accomplished by finding compassion for yourself...
In our busy lives, one experience tends to blend into another. Often we do not complete the previous experience before starting the next one.
This keeps us from being present. The unfinished experiences start to build up and keep us anxious and overwhelmed.
A way to complete experiences and not ...
All relationships are contractual. Often these contracts are unwritten and unsaid- yet they control most of the experiences of the relationship. We are typically not consciously aware of what we have agreed to with this person.
During this wintertime of introspection, we may become aware that a re...
All things affect. Continuing with the seasonal theme of introspection and reevaluating our lives, it is essential to consider how the environments we expose ourselves to affect us.
Environments include our home, neighborhood, workplace, relationship, friendships, and social arenas.
One of the st...
