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Most of us have experienced a power struggle in a relationship. No fun. But what is it really about? Many power struggles with couples are about each trying to get the other to come into their world.

The stronger or more determined of the two usually wins. The loser resents the winner; the...

Wherever we spend our holidays says which family is most important to us. Whichever family gets the most priority during the holidays is our primary family.

What is the important part of my holiday and with whom I spend that? Do we go to their house, or do they come to ours? Where is...

We are determined to change people. We want people to be who we think they should be. We want people to be who we need them to be.

It doesn't seem to matter to us if it is something that they want to be. It doesn't even seem to matter if it is something they are able to be.

Yet when they turn...

The Grateful Dead song, Foolish Heart, written by Robert Hunter and Jerry Garcia, came into my head to help me understand a vital lesson. The main lyrics are, "But never give your heart my friend unto a foolish heart."

I had been sharing tender, vulnerable things about myself to critical people....

Most of our relationships have become casual. We allow them to evolve without thinking about how we want them to be. We do not take the time to maintain them or keep them on track.

What if... we invested some time to define our relationships by thinking about and deciding what we want them to...

"You only allow as much love as you feel like you deserve." This is a quote by Bart Anderson, a spiritual teacher that I studied with for many years. So what happens when we experience more love than we are comfortable with? We push it away.

In other words, we push people away when they are...

Everything we say or do either creates connection or separation with people and all of life.

I have found this not only to be true- but to be an excellent overall guide when making decisions and navigating life.

When considering whether to say or do something, simply ask yourself, "Will saying...